Me, my co-pilot who is also an autopilot
Who is stronger?
As kids, upon receiving pain, we always cried. Now, as adults, upon receiving pain, we mostly don’t cry. Why?
Also, as kids, why did we cry? Why didn’t we laugh when we received pain?
We don’t have wings to fly like birds. We don’t have gills to breathe underwater. We don’t know any natural technique to survive under the soil as earthworms do. Now, all of these are by design. Then, couldn’t god have simply made all of us without the ability to cry?
I have often felt that I am not the one controlling my actions. You may have also felt in a similar manner, that when you look back at your past action, you will think, “Why did I do that”, “Why did I say that”, and “Why am I like this”.
The reason I believe we do such things is that we have two drivers within ourselves. For the time being, let me call the two drivers by the term
Copilot / Autopilot
The reason I believe, that we cried as kids is because we were driven by the auto-pilot and the reason that we don’t cry as adults is that we are being driven by the same auto-pilot. Confused?
Let us dive in deep.
Think of the Main Pilot as someone who does not have a memory. The Main Pilot wants to observe, play with things and enjoy life.
The Copilot, on the other hand, has infinite memory. The Copilot’s primary task is to ensure survival.
The Copilot is like a machine. It can only function based on how it is coded, based on the rules laid down, and based on the memory it has. The Main pilot has got the ability to recode the copilot, but, the Copilot can recode itself for survival. From time to time, the Main pilot has to ensure that the Copilot is being re-coded based on the requirements of the Main pilot, and not just for survival. Otherwise, the questions at the beginning of this article will arise.
Scene — 1
You are just born. I believe the only thing we would know would be
- to laugh
- to observe
- to cry
Our muscles are not used to stretching or even movement. We might have been hungry. Anyways, the first thing we would have probably done would be, cry. Why?
I believe this is because we were functioning in auto-pilot mode. And the auto-pilot comes coded with this.
Cry when you are uncomfortable.
Laugh when you are comfortable.
Observe when you are neither comfortable nor uncomfortable.
if at all times when you were hungry,
if at all times when you had received pain,
if you had laughed instead of crying,
what would have happened?
The auto-pilot also comes coded with one other important rule. TO SUCK. Literally.
what would have happened if we had not known how to suck?
If you are in observation mode, and, if you get anything that the co-pilot can’t identify, the one and only thing that the co-pilot says is “TRY SUCKING IT”.
Our parents may have done several things to cheer us up when we cried. They might have fed you, sung to you, shown you different toys, played with you, etc. And the main pilot always loves new things. New things always excite the main pilot.
When new things are felt, seen, or heard, the main pilot always takes control. Now, the auto-pilot steps down to co-pilot mode. The co-pilot says, “hey I don’t know what this is”. This is when you take the wheel.
The main pilot cannot function without the co-pilot, but when the co-pilot is working in auto-pilot mode, the main pilot is not necessary.
If the co-pilot is not at all working, then everything is new to you. Always. The main pilot has no memory. When the main pilot is playing with some new thing, the co-pilot always checks its memory bank and informs you accordingly.
Enough theory. Let's talk with examples.
As kids, when we fell down, we might have gotten hurt and probably would have started to cry. This, I believe is the work of auto-pilot. It doesn’t take any special effort from our side. It happens naturally.
Okay. Now, at this moment, if we were shown some new toys, we might have been able to quickly stop crying and would have forgotten about the pain. This, I believe is because the main pilot took the wheel and started driving toward the “new toy”. At the same time, auto-pilot is driving towards pain.
You will only feel pain if your attention is currently focused at the point where the pain is. If your attention is somewhere else, based on how focused you are, the intensity of the pain reduces greatly. The intensity of the pain could be reduced to zero too. Just Observe Yourself.
The pain is still there, but the main pilot is forcing the attention towards the “new toy” and the auto-pilot is forcing the attention towards the pain. Who is stronger at this instant decides the outcome. If the main pilot was strong, then you will quickly stop crying. If the auto-pilot was strong, you will not stop crying until the pain is gone, even if you were shown many new toys.
Imagine that the new toy was taken away instantly, and now the main pilot has no particular place to drive to. Main-pilot just takes the hand from the wheel. The vehicle now goes where the auto-pilot takes it, which probably would be, back to crying.
If the above scenario were to happen a lot of time, then the co-pilot recodes itself like this. Okay, to get new things, cry even if you have no pain.
It is from this moment that the kid starts to cry, as a form of protest to get new things, but it is the work of auto-pilot.
If you have felt that you are not the one controlling your actions, it is simply because you were not the one driving the vehicle. It was in auto-pilot mode. You may have tried to take the wheel, but the auto-pilot was stronger.
How to recode auto-pilot?
How to make the main pilot stronger?
How to make auto-pilot function in co-pilot mode?
Now, that is a little too much for one article.
Just Observe Yourself and see if you can find the answers by yourself.
Now, this is not a task I am giving to you. This counts as a conclusion statement. JOY. See if you can figure it out.
Next part, not coming soon. It has not started yet. It may not start at all.